“Protect your energy” is everywhere right now. Set boundaries. Avoid toxic people. Stay home with a candle and a blanket. And honestly, I get it. If you’re sensitive, people can be a lot.
But here’s the thing: you can’t hide from energy. And trying to usually makes it worse.
Why Protection Isn’t Enough
Energy doesn’t care about distance. You can live across the country from a family member and still be handling their energy every day. You can be alone in your apartment on a Saturday and still be carrying your boss’s stress from Tuesday.
And when you over-protect, putting up walls and bracing yourself, you usually end up with more charge, not less. Walls take energy to hold up. Resistance makes things stick. (Whatever you resist, persists. It shows up a lot around here.)
Having a clear sense of your own space matters. But the real answer isn’t shutting everyone out. It’s clearing out, and tuning down.
What “Clearing Your Energy” Means
Clearing your energy means letting go of the emotions, thoughts and energy you’ve picked up from other people, so you’re running on your own. Everything is energy. You have your own unique life force, and it gets mixed up with everyone else’s all day long. The good news is you can clear it, as often as you need to.
Three Steps to Clear Your Energy
1. Ground
Do something that brings you back into your body: a walk, a workout, a hot bath, your feet in the sand. It gives what isn’t yours somewhere safe to go, like the grounding wire in a house. (More on that in What Is Grounding?)
2. Ask how much of it is yours
When you feel heavy, anxious or just off, picture a dial from 0 to 100% and ask, “How much of this is mine?” Take the first number that pops up. If it’s 20%, then 80% of what you’re feeling can go. Let it drain away.
3. Come back to yourself
This is the step most people skip. Once you’ve let something go, take a minute to notice what feels like you again. If you let go of someone else’s energy and don’t come back into your own, something else tends to move right back in.
In our classes, we teach specific tools for each of these steps. But even just noticing them makes a difference.
When to Clear
After a hard conversation.
When you get home from work, before you walk in the door.
After scrolling the news or social media.
Before bed, so you’re not taking everyone’s day to sleep with you.
Anytime you notice a feeling that came out of nowhere.
I’ve been doing this for 22 years, and I still pick up other people’s energy. I just recover a lot faster.
You Get to Stay Open
This is the part I love. When you can clear, you don’t have to hide. You can go to the party, take the call and sit with your friend while they cry, and still come home feeling like you. You keep your empathy. You just stop carrying everyone’s weight around like a backpack full of rocks. (If that sounds familiar, you might like Signs You’re an Empath.)
Quick Answers
How do I know if I’m carrying someone else’s energy?
Sudden mood changes, feeling drained after certain people, or emotions that don’t match what’s happening in your life are common signs. Asking “How much of this is mine?” is a quick way to check.
How often should I clear my energy?
When you don’t feel good. You’ll know. Feeling off, heavy or not like yourself is a great time to clear.
If you’d like to learn how to do this for yourself, Clairity School has classes and trainings that can help. Here’s where to start.
